We've all heard the adage "when life hands you a lemon, make lemonade". Well sometimes you get a bumper crop of lemons and life just plain sucks for awhile.
The secret sauce of success is to love the lemons life hands you. Easier said than done, you say? I say easier done than living with bitterness and waiting for it to pass.
Impression Management. It's how we 'posture' to make ourselves look good, acceptable, even desirable in the world.
At work, it's the clothes we wear, the degrees we hold, the people we know, the office we inhabit, or the influence we wield.
At home, it's the house we live in, the car we drive, the church we attend, the sports we play, the way we care for our children.
It's all about looking good to avoid rejection. It's about controlling what other people think of us. It's about looking good.
It is what causes people to feel like a fake. It's what creates a double life. When the image we portray is different from who we know we are when nobody's looking. The broader the gap between the two, the harder we grab the reigns of control to keep from being exposed.
A compartmentalized life is about impression management.
Imagine what freedom you might find if you could be all of who you are, wherever you are, regardless of who's watching.
Saying yes to one thing means saying no to something else.
When two people enter marriage, they hope their love will endure the trials of time. Many dream of a happily-ever-after that in the end simply does not materialize. Sometimes the end comes in one big blowout event like infidelity or abuse. Other times it disintegrates from the slow drip of monotony, apathy or disrespect.
We want to hear your story. Did you make a free choice to leave, or did you leave under duress? Was the departure announced or sudden? Did you feel victimized or victorious? What was the biggest surprise? The greatest relief? The lesson learned that you would pass on to others in that situation?
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Do you know someone who is afraid to dream? Afraid to pursue their heart's desire? Afraid of what people might say or think or do?
Have you seen people who don't know what they really want out of life? It seems like they knew where they were going once, but have lost their way, and now lack the confidence to proceed?
Do you or someone you know suffer from failure to launch? You're filled with hopes and dreams. You even have great ideas for how to get started, but lack the focus to bring those dreams to fruition?
I can help because I've been there myself. More than once. I can guide you through your unique "disqualifiers" to a place of courage and competence.
Living your Dreams without Drama requires 3 things:
One of the most perplexing questions in six months of daily "What If" emails turned out to be "What if...you could make one dream come true? Which one matters the most to you?"
It's a straightforward question that makes women squirm. Many intelligent, successful women couldn't answer the question and some were afraid to try.
Everyone has hopes and dreams. Sometimes we trade childish dreams for adult pursuits. Sometimes we are coerced into it by well-meaning parents or spouses. Sometimes life happens and our most cherished dreams are stolen from us without our consent.
Do you remember a time when you didn't stop yourself from imagining? A time when you believed anything was possible?
Is your story one of a dream realized or a dream deferred?
If you are codependent you may have trouble leading others and building a cohesive team because you need their approval or their permission. Instead you may hold yourself back so they feel comfortable.
My experience with leadership is that it contains one part each of character, ability, and faith. While techniques can be picked up along the way to enhance skills, I always recognize a certain “je ne sais quoi” essence about leaders I admire.
Authentic leadership involves a rock-solid understanding of who you are, belief in the foundational goodness of others (even in the face of evidence to the contrary), and an enduring optimism and faith that all your efforts will eventually come to fruition.
Leaders sell – themselves, their ideas, and the emotional benefits of following. Every day, workers are confronted with the stereotype that women 'take care' and men 'take charge.'
Any great leader is a visionary. I truly believe that without a vision, the people perish. (Proverbs 29:18). A good vision is compelling and draws people to follow. Without people who follow, you cannot lead. Richard Schubert, Red Cross Director, said “How you attract and motivate people determines your success as a leader.”
Are you frustrated that your leadership is being resisted? Make a clarity call today at 509-593-4989.
Have you ever felt betrayed by a friend?
Judged unfairly by someone else?
Unfavorably compared to a sibling?
Did you learn that women can't be trusted?
What about your mother? Or your sister?
Geneen Roth, author of Women Food and God writes about trusting yourself with food.
Trust Yourself with Choices.
Trust Yourself with Men.
Trust Yourself with Women.
Trust Yourself with God.
Trust Yourself with Food.
We all learn - and lead - by example.
Whose example are you following today?
Author Kim Halsey
I love to co-create new lemon recipes with people who think they hate lemons.