I've finished a month of sabbatical from clients and Facebook street fighting which gave me time to lean into extreme love and self-care. I am not here for the business - my taxes prove I'm really more of a hobbyist anyway.
The Universe has continued to guide me into real life connections with real people creating real change in a real world. I do best when following that still, small voice that leads me beside still waters and restores my soul.
While our political cycle runs another round, and news makes the drama seemingly inescapable. I am not here for fake friends or fair-weather followers. There is room for a non-profit but it feels too much like work to me.
I invite you to join me. Daily. Consistently. Be still. Quiet your mind. Find and follow your Passion Project. I'll do the same.
"They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not grow faint." Isaiah 40:31
Today marks 10 years since I became gainfully unemployed and started my coaching practice at Leading With Heart. I have invested $$ tens of thousands into online marketing strategies, multiple coaching certifications and mega miles of travel.
It took COVID in 2020 to bring me the ultimate gift of clarity. It is simple. Super simple.
Life is transformative. Change is the only constant. We see it in nature and society alike as species, families, organizations or governments adapt and evolve or destabilize and disappear.
Power and control are the ultimate illusions. The idea that we have lasting influence on anything outside of ourselves is the final fantasy.
COVID has exposed our humanity and hidden agendas. No excuses, no hall pass. It is an equal opportunity wake-up call.
I am drawn to count my blessings as society sputters to restart amid global turmoil. I am rereading sacred scripture for new insight.
I am blessed to have developed a daily meditation practice before being thrown into social distancing that most days smacked of isolation.
I have always been late to the party of life. I approached everything as a problem to be solved. It made me an asset in corporate America and a liability in love.
I am blessed with a late in life opportunity to love without measure.
Everything on earth is transitory and temporary. Legacy is an ego prop. This moment, this breath, this body is all we have to experience the magic of life around us.
I don’t want to miss one single second going forward.
Thank you COVID for Life Lesson #34.164,000.
Your head is out to get you. In the beginning, ‘educate and meditate’ was enough. As more comes to light and as our denial breaks, we are challenged to manage our minds.
Anxiety sees a problem in every solution, while creativity offers a solution to every problem. In the words of Zig Ziglar, be a good-finder today.
Find the good in others even if they aren’t as enlightened or informed as you think you are or you wish they were.
Hold those you love near and far - find the good regardless of your disagreements. Reach in, reach out, reach loving arms around each other and trust that all is as it should be in this moment. For truly, this moment is all we’ve ever had - we only imagined otherwise.
Finally, dig deep into the hidden reservoirs of creativity and resilience that is your birthright - to flex and flow with whatever comes - confident that the one who made you will sustain you. (Isaiah 46:4)
We will emerge into in a new normal on a new day. Changed, evolved individually and collectively, to discover that the answers that were once dormant within us have become puzzle pieces to a more loving, collaborate collective.
Stay safe out there and in your own mind/body experience.
Educate and meditate is easier said than done when we can’t hug one another and our only “socialization” is overexposure to media. There is something fundamentally wrong with this picture. And while I don’t subscribe to conspiracy theorists, this certainly sets the stage for abuse of power and overstepping authority.
Pre-grieving the what-ifs only increases stress and reduces the ability of our immune systems to fight off the disease. What is the solution? #loveisstilltheanswer.
FaceTime, call, visit if you can, send an old school snail-mail letter if you can’t, love your life while you have it. In Tim McGraw’s lyrics: live like you were dying and grace will fill your days
I know I’m a voice crying in the wilderness here, but Love is still the answer. My only contribution to chaos is the ability to maintain calm in the storm. And so I have a tent fort of meditation and hot chocolate here for anyone who wants to come in.
No matter how much I learned or how hard I tried, I just could not make peace with food or with my body.
I had even spent many years in 12-step recovery for disordered eating only to learn finally that food was not the problem. Nor was compulsive eating, emotional eating, or binge eating.
Deprivation dieting was the culprit. So I called it out for the addiction it was, and was excluded from speaking at 12-step events. Exit stage right.
Diet culture had been so insidiously woven into the inner workings of my mind and body that it was hard to even recognize at first, much less dislodge. I had learned so many 'touch not, taste not, want not' rules around food that I had to take a proactive approach to breaking the cycle.
I began looking for alternatives online and found several coaches who claimed a non-diet solution to my problem. What I discovered, however, were they were using intuitive eating terminology to lure last-chance dieters into a very expensive hybrid model of a hunger-and-fullness diet sometimes called mindful eating. Couched in non-diet terminology, it promised a new approach but ended up tapping into women's shame and pocketbook just like all the others had.
So i did what I always do, I went to the source and became a certified Intuitive Eating counselor through the original dietitians Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch who wrote the book. I did not do that so I could sell it to you. I did it so I could get the fast track for myself.
What I hoped would be a 3 month process turned into more like 3 years. I learned important things about the biochemical response to deprivation dieting that results in binge eating and obesity. I learned the essential steps to release myself from a lifetime of dieting and deprivation, and I am a purist about the message I carry.
I chose to co-create at EveryBODYdiet.com because I see an overzealous reaction forming in the non-diet community just as I do in diet culture. I don't have the energy for schoolyard fights. I'm here to carry a message of hope and healing to those who are weary and wounded from the battle.
It is my purpose on this earth to hold safe space for people who want to be well. I encourage you to lean into this healing community, monitor your media and being to notice and remove anything that smacks of before-and-after deprivation dieting no matter what new label they slap on it.
You can't hate your way into a body you love. But you can at least accept the skin you're in and spend your energy creating a life you love in your natural body size.
Kim Halsey is an entrepreneur living in the leap from the life she was programmed to live into the life of her dreams.