We've all heard the adage "when life hands you a lemon, make lemonade". Well sometimes you get a bumper crop of lemons and life just plain sucks for awhile.
The secret sauce of success is to love the lemons life hands you. Easier said than done, you say? I say easier done than living with bitterness and waiting for it to pass.
I have always admired people who can paint. Or draw. Or sketch. I don't believe at this moment that I am one of those.
I decided in about 2nd grade that art was not my thing. I settled over time for my stick-figure drawings. My creative outlet took the form of words, thoughts and ideas and it has served me well.
So, imagine my surprise when, after signing up for the Brene Brown/Oprah extravaganza to begin next week, I realized I needed to purchase approximately $70 worth of art supplies. Ugh! Even shopping online for the items I know nothing about makes me feel inadequate to the task.
Vulnerability means risk. Suddenly this feels like work. It will be my mission to find joy in the process of making a mess. Guess I'll find out if art really does imitate life or vice versa.
I crack myself up. You'll never guess what I did (or didn't do) this month.
I didn't order art supplies for the class I am now half-way through.
I shopped for them.
I whined about not knowing what I was doing.
I blogged about the risk of creativity.
I worried that my supplies hadn't arrived.
I checked my email for order confirmation - and - nothing!
I checked every plastic card I own for a charge to the art supply places I might have used. Nada.
So I have done all of the homework in Brene Brown's online class - except for the part that challenged me the most...playing with paint.
Here's a handy little Self-Compassion Scale developed by Dr. Kristin Neff, a researcher and professor at the University of Texas at Austin that helped me extend some compassion for this faux pas. Hope you enjoy it, too!
Success breeds success.
Find someone who has what you want, and do what they did to get there. Simple, right?
Brene Brown is a researcher who bared her soul and shared her findings about the power of vulnerability in a Ted Talk three years ago. Now she's partnering with Oprah and OWN Network to offer a very reasonably priced 6-week course based on her book The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be, and Be Who You Are.
That's exactly where I am in my personal journey and where the women I work with most need to go.
Some things are better experienced in a small group of like-minded women instead of open to the public via Facebook.
Still, if you're feeling brave and want to practice being vulnerable and visible, I invite you to drop in, join the forum at Facebook and come along with me if you like. Or lurk. Or don't. The choice is yours.
Author Kim Halsey
I love to co-create new lemon recipes with people who think they hate lemons.