We've all heard the adage "when life hands you a lemon, make lemonade". Well sometimes you get a bumper crop of lemons and life just plain sucks for awhile.
The secret sauce of success is to love the lemons life hands you. Easier said than done, you say? I say easier done than living with bitterness and waiting for it to pass.
I have often worked in male-dominated fields: law enforcement, healthcare, and even manufacturing. One of the ways I tried to fit in was to be one of the boys. I thought if I somehow disproved the theory that women are emotional, it would garner their respect.
Still it was a no-win. It was inauthentic for me, and it was exhausting. Over time, I had trouble separating my work face from my home life. 'Kick ass and take names' is not the preferred approach when trying to develop trust and intimacy with people you love.
Next time we can talk about how to know when to stay and when to go - at work, at home, or in love.
It's SO worth it! (no charge)
Men conquer and women connect.
Neuroscience seems to have proven that women's brains are wired a little differently than men. If you have been anywhere on the Corporate Ladder, you already know that.
Women also worry more. Females visit the doctor more frequently and are diagnosed with depression more often. Look at the women you know - aren't they harder on themselves than anyone else would be?
Women who strive for success have one thing in common: You want it all, you want it now, and you want it done perfectly. Your energy and attention are divided (not so equally) between work demands, family needs, and just general people pleasing.
Oftentimes, the solutions offered only compound the problem.
Not enough time? Go to a seminar on time management.
Not enough love? Go to the gym so you can be more attractive.
Not enough money? Consider a second job - one you can do from home.
Where does it get you? Overworked, under appreciated, and exhausted.
And the #1 thing that keeps you up at night is usually about lack of connection.
You just want everyone to be happy. And you think it's your job to make it happen. You can give so much away that you may lose sight of your own dreams, desires and visions.
What's keeping you up at night? Share here.
Author Kim Halsey
I love to co-create new lemon recipes with people who think they hate lemons.