Impression Management. It's how we 'posture' to make ourselves look good, acceptable, even desirable in the world.
At work, it's the clothes we wear, the degrees we hold, the people we know, the office we inhabit, or the influence we wield.
At home, it's the house we live in, the car we drive, the church we attend, the sports we play, the way we care for our children.
It's all about looking good to avoid rejection. It's about controlling what other people think of us. It's about looking good.
It is what causes people to feel like a fake. It's what creates a double life. When the image we portray is different from who we know we are when nobody's looking. The broader the gap between the two, the harder we grab the reigns of control to keep from being exposed.
A compartmentalized life is about impression management.
Imagine what freedom you might find if you could be all of who you are, wherever you are, regardless of who's watching.
Saying yes to one thing means saying no to something else.
When two people enter marriage, they hope their love will endure the trials of time. Many dream of a happily-ever-after that in the end simply does not materialize. Sometimes the end comes in one big blowout event like infidelity or abuse. Other times it disintegrates from the slow drip of monotony, apathy or disrespect.
We want to hear your story. Did you make a free choice to leave, or did you leave under duress? Was the departure announced or sudden? Did you feel victimized or victorious? What was the biggest surprise? The greatest relief? The lesson learned that you would pass on to others in that situation?
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Do you know someone who is afraid to dream? Afraid to pursue their heart's desire? Afraid of what people might say or think or do?
Have you seen people who don't know what they really want out of life? It seems like they knew where they were going once, but have lost their way, and now lack the confidence to proceed?
Do you or someone you know suffer from failure to launch? You're filled with hopes and dreams. You even have great ideas for how to get started, but lack the focus to bring those dreams to fruition?
I can help because I've been there myself. More than once. I can guide you through your unique "disqualifiers" to a place of courage and competence.
Living your Dreams without Drama requires 3 things:
Kim is a career coach for women in transition.