I have often worked in male-dominated fields: law enforcement, healthcare, and even manufacturing. One of the ways I tried to fit in was to be one of the boys. I thought if I somehow disproved the theory that women are emotional, it would garner their respect.
Still it was a no-win. It was inauthentic for me, and it was exhausting. Over time, I had trouble separating my work face from my home life. 'Kick ass and take names' is not the preferred approach when trying to develop trust and intimacy with people you love.
Next time we can talk about how to know when to stay and when to go - at work, at home, or in love.
It's SO worth it! (no charge)
Kim is a career coach for women in transition.